It's important to be able to identify your values at all stages in life. This continues to be true when you are considering retiring because this is a time in life when people ask what they can do to live a more fulfilled life.
As you approach retirement, it is normal to be concerned about being happy. Many people even see it as a goal in their life. Yet, there are so many different definitions for happiness it can be confusing and even frustrating to make happiness a goal.
A better way to think about your life is to ask yourself what will make your life more fulfilling. Fulfillment in life is related to how well you are living in alignment with your values.
Values are not morals or principles. They are not something you do or have. They are the essence of who you are – not who you think you should be. For instance, money is not a value even though it may be important to you. However, the things money might buy, such as adventure, independence, and growth are values.
When you are aligned with your values, you feel inner harmony. There is a sense of internal "rightness." it is easier for you to make choices because you are clear about what is important to you. Your actions are in agreement with your true self.
Take this quiz to see how well you are living in sync with your values. Read each statement and mark it T (true) or F (false) for you.
- T F I have spent time clarifying my values and can easily name them.
- T F My values are my own. I have not simply adopted them from outside influences.
- T F My values are in alignment with the company or organization I work for or own.
- T F Anyone looking at my life from the outside can see what I value.
- T F I use my values as a guidepost for making decisions. I ask if a particular choice would bring me closer to – or further from – a core value.
- T F When I feel upset, it is almost always because my values are being hurt – either by me, someone else, or the situation.
- T F I am not easily swayed by others' opinions when they conflict with my values.
- T F To remain open and flexible, I am willing to re-examine my values to determine whether something is still true for me.
- T F I find creative ways to honor all of my values – even when they conflict with one another.
- T F When I live according to my values, I feel satisfied and successful throughout my life.
Total your true and false responses. If you have mostly "True" responses, congratulations! You are living your life in alignment with your values.
If you answered false more often than true, you may need to become clearer about how to make your actions reflect your values.
Once you bring your life into greater alignment with your values, you will feel more fulfilled. If you struggle identifying your top values or how to connect them with your actions, get the help you need to successfully align your values with your life. You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org .
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