Let me begin by quickly reviewing the 5 symptoms of being stuck that I discussed in my last post:
- Uncertainty or self-doubt.
- Loneliness.
- Lack of meaning or an emptiness in your life.
- Frustration.
- Aggressiveness.
If you notice that you have any of the above symptoms, try using one or more of the following remedies to achieve the things that are important to you:
- Uncertainty – Listen to feedback as objectively as possible. What can you learn? Rise above criticism and mistakes. Trust and believe in your vision. According to Robert E. Quinn, author of Deep Change, sometimes we have to “build the bridge as we walk on it.”
- Loneliness - Initiate ways to get actively involved with something you are interested in or, even better, passionate about. Seek out positive, trustworthy individuals for support. Resist isolating.
- Lack of meaning - Find something to do that is challenging or inspiring somewhere in your life. Re-invent yourself. What is your purpose in life, or what do you want to be remembered for doing? Reframe the situation to give new meaning, i.e. “When given a lemon, make lemonade.”
- Frustration – Be aware of your values. The more closely a situation matches your main values, the more satisfied you will feel. Stop reacting. Break your goal into smaller steps. Make sure the time frame you give yourself to accomplish what you want is realistic.
- Aggressiveness - Slow down; take deep breaths. Make a list of things in your life that you appreciate, are grateful for, or have gone well. Do this several times a week. Ask for a time out, and set a time to talk later. Be aware of your needs. Think about what is the result you want to create. Stay open and positive when you resume talking.
Sometimes it is helpful to talk to a trusted friend, mentor, or coach to help you sort out which symptom(s) you have. That person can also be helpful in holding you accountable for trying the appropriate remedy and checking back with you to ensure you are making progress and becoming successful. Once you are moving forward again, you will have the needed energy and motivation to pursue your goal.
Action Step: Once you identify how you are stuck, then locate the remedy from the list above that will get you moving in a positive direction. Sometimes you may need to use more than one remedy for a particular situation.
I love to help people be successful in aligning their actions with their values.
Maurine
