Wouldn’t it be wonderful to make appropriate decisions confidently? Yes, we all make decisions on a daily basis. Actually, most of the small ones don’t require much thought.
It is the bigger decisions that require more time and thought that we worry about and can even cause us to get stuck. The definition for decision-making is: a mindful awareness of emotional reactions while choosing behaviors or actions based on your strengths, values and goals.
This means to make good decisions you need the skill of self-assessment that comes from your self-awareness. While there is no one best style for making decisions, this important skill will make the difference in making good decisions that consider the situation as well as your needs and values.
There are four basic points or things to understand about making good decisions:
- The process is mostly unconscious and nonlinear
- Risk is involved creating uncertainty, fear, or anxiety which makes your brain less effective
- Information overload makes it easy to get overwhelmed and confused
- Blind spots or biases can prevent you from setting realistic goals and knowing what direction to take
A confused mind usually does not make decisions. To get the clarity you need to make good decisions, it is important to identify your values and needs. You have to know what your values are before you can make decisions that honor them. In addition, you need to know what your inner resources, abilities, and limits are. The skill that helps you do this is accurate self-assessment.
This skill also functions as the antidote for blind spots about your strengths and limitations, especially during times of stress. It is at those times, you go on “automatic pilot.” Blind spots, among other things, can cause you to:
- Set unrealistic goals
- Push others too hard
- Need to seem perfect
Any of these will negatively affect your productivity and relationships.
However, if you have accurate self-assessment, you will:
- Be aware of your strengths and limitations
- Learn more from experience
- Be reflective and have a sense of humor
- Be open to constructive feedback and self-development
- Identify resources.
When you are checking out your thoughts, know that you will be getting information from three parts of your brain: your head, heart, and gut. Notice what each of your three brains are telling you. As you bring these three different parts of you together, notice what becomes clear about making the decision.
The following three tips help you use your skill of self-assessment and increase the possibility of making a good decision:
- Clarify your goal – what the outcome of your decision will achieve
- Get as many facts as you can within an appropriate time frame – including ideas from those you consult with, your feelings, and hunches
- Tell others who will be affected by your decision how you will implement your decision
You want your decisions to take you where you want or need to go. Take time to gather wisdom from each of your three brains so you connect with the full picture of reality. With your strong self-assessment skill, and using your values as a compass, you will be making decisions that are right for you and living a meaningful and fulfilling life.
What else helps you make better decisions?
Until next time,